I get angry easily and i cant control it. what should i do?

im in my mid 20's. try as i might, im always frustrated with somethign and get angry fast. i cant control it anymore it feels i will never be able to control it. i have no focus in my life to calm me down. i eventually calm but i alway want to hit something. what can i do?I get angry easily and i cant control it. what should i do?
Your mind set it very important. Do not think that you cannot change. Self reinforcement is hurting you here. You tell yourself over and over that you are an angry person who will never change, and you fulfill these thoughts, which make you think them even more.





Instead, think positively. ';I can change. I can control my emotions.'; Tell yourself similar things when you wake up, when you go to bed, and when you are in a frustrating situation.I get angry easily and i cant control it. what should i do?
See a psychiatrist. I'm not calling you crazy, but I had the same problem until I was diagnosed w/ bipolar disorder.
Well facing the reality of your words is a good beginning. When I read your question I SEE all the things that will in your life if you DON'T find a way to ';handle it.'; Jail, prison, no work, no family, no life. Is that the picture of what you want to look back and see in 10 years from now? It is seeing these things as REALITY that will hopefully give you the determination to CHANGE your ways. If you drink or do drugs then your temper likely is a result of either coming down or doing TOO MUCH. So this is your place to begin. If you dont do these things then you must understand that we were made on a HIGHER level than animals so we can LEARN how to not act like one. YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO CHANGE.


Today's world DOES NOT tolerate violent people...if you continue and do nothing your behavior will get worse. Violent Offenders in ALL states are CLOSE to being locked up FOREVER with the ';key'; thrown away!!! Zero Tolerance.


You are the one that must IDENTIFY what the ';triggers'; are that cause your bouts of temper and frustration. AND I am sure it ISN'T the neighbors being too loud or your family not calling you...or any other of a number of trivial things. IT is rooted WITHIN you from something in your past and you may likely have genetics that may not help, also. The bottom line is WHATEVER there MIGHT BE TO DO TO STOP your behavior...be it counseling, church, staying by yourself until you identify and deal with your past....YOU must DECIDE to do it ALL to come to the bottom of it and CHANGE. ONLY you can do it. But I am already hearing the words ';I can't do a thing about it.'; That defeats you BEFORE you even try. YOU CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT and if you care about your life and your family YOU WILL do something about it.....or you will end up hurting your own life and that of others immensely and irrepairably.


A GOOD beginning is when you are ';frustrated'; go outside and hit a brick wall or a tree...........they cannot be hurt, but the WAY they ';fight back'; just might help your attitude a little! I am SURE the pain in your fist will last long enough to remind you of that MOMENT when you ';lost control.'; God made humans...All humans, with the ability to be ';above the level of animals.'; You must realize this and do what it takes to help yourself for your futures sake.


Look DEEP inside and instead of THINKING about making changes, MAKE CHANGES.


Before you 'lose control' make a PLAN for what you will do when it happens and go over and over it in your mind so that when the situation arises, you WILL do your plan. It can be as simple as WALKING AWAY.........everytime. AND staying away until the moment passes. AND look in the mirror and see the person that is REALLY causing your pain. He's right there looking back at you.


Blessings and Good Luck,


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